What you look at IS what you see.
I have a new acquaintance. She is sweet, outgoing and personable. However, she is consumed with tales of woe about her life. Her ex-husband takes advantage of her, people owe her money, her daughter is a disrespectful mess, her house is falling apart, and she's gaining weight.
I listen then try to gently change guide the conversation in another direction. I don't want to add energy to her sad stories.
I wish she realized that whatever she is looking at--all the negative things in her life--is all that she sees.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
|Great Smokey Mountains of NC|
My family used to visit an elderly relative. Oh, how I wished she was a sweet, little ole lady. Wrong-y Dong-y. This lady was a self-absorbed, angry woman and mean as a rattle snake. Lordy, how I dreaded those visits.
One visit, I decided to focus on the beautiful scenery on the ride to visit her. I decided to be grateful for a good meal that I didn't have to prepare or clean up after. I focused on forgiveness. Certainly something had happened in her life to make her so bitter. I decided not to 'bite' when she would bait me. I smiled and let her words hang in the air, then disintegrate . Like a pillow fight, it takes two to participate.
I finally realized that I had control of what I chose to see.
Do you find what you look at is what you see?
Happy Sunday, y'all.