I am forgiving of small offensives. Small offenses being things that happen (or are said) with no intention or awareness of hurt or wrongdoing.
But have a difficult time with the reprehensible: molestation, animal and child cruelty, adultery, murder,-- you know the MAJOR sins. I've seen all the shows with the mother who forgives the drunk driver that killed her baby. The forgiving man sent to prison for years then released after DNA tests prove his innocence.
I salute these folks! These people have super-human powers in my book. Forgiving folks are evolved souls. They are angels walking on earth.
I think there needs to be a different vernacular for mere mortals who grapple with the whole forgiveness thing. Here's my deal: I believe in release. I release people of their wrong doings. Release beats allowing their actions to invade my thoughts and distract me from all of the wonderful things to experience in life.
How easy is forgiveness for you?